Relationship Patterns
Our relationship patterns determine who we attract, how we interact with our partner, and how we allow them to treat us.
Some people find themselves stuck in the same loop with the same relationship problems, feeling more discouraged and less hopeful over time. Understanding your pattern can help you redirect your behaviors and create a new, healthy pattern, intentionally aimed towards your relationship goals.
Common Relationship Patterns
You are passionate about love and willing to fight for your relationship. You are highly perceptive and attuned to others. At times your partner seems distant, insincere or pulls away, and you often feel let down.
You seek connection and avoid rejection or conflict by monitoring your partner’s mood and trying to keep them happy. You may find yourself feeling resentful over time because your needs go unmet.
You find it hard to get close or be vulnerable. You identify as independent and may feel uncomfortable around highly emotional people. You might find that you attract partners who desire more closeness than you do.
You find yourself in a stressful push-pull pattern with many ups and downs. You might want to go to your partner for comfort or connection but also fear that they’ll hurt you if you get too close.
Treatment
In therapy, we will explore many facets that influence your relationship pattern and attachment style. Your upbringing, your dating history, and your current relationships all offer indicators. Digging deeper into these will help you understand yourself, process your perceptions and expectations, and address any barriers that are preventing you from finding or creating healthy love.